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Mar. 24th, 2005 @ 06:38 pm
So... since I am kind of new to the whole skin care thing...
What can I use that will refine my pores? As in, something simple that I don't have to buy as an expensive wash or mask. Would that be... toner? What exactly is toner? Would it be rubbing alcohol or witch hazel or something like that? Would I be able to buy a toner pure rather than a specialized, expensive mixture? What can be done to prevent/remove blackheads? What about preventing/removing pimples?
Also, all this is mostly for my nose, which is also pierced... so things that would be piercing-friendly are appreciated!

ewwww Mar. 10th, 2005 @ 12:41 pm
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Feb. 27th, 2005 @ 03:30 pm
I'm writing my grandfather, who is an ordaned minister, a thank you note. My mum says that I am supposed to address the envelope to Rev. John [Sirname], while I think it is just weird to refer to my grandfather, whom I have never refered to as a reverend before as "Reverend". Is it really all that rude not to (especially since he is retired)?

Feb. 11th, 2005 @ 06:12 pm
new kid here and i have a problem.

to start things off, i have a.d.d. (attention deficit disorder) which makes my brain act impulsively, especially when i'm in a situation where i'm scared. this has caused me to lie to my parents about little and big things in the past and present.

recently, some big things have been resolved and everything was good. i've been taking medication for my a.d.d and i've been going to counseling. well, last night my mom found out about something i had done wrong and got angry. she felt lied to again. she seems incredibly angry with me and my girlfriend's suggestion was to call her to say what i was too afraid to say last night. now, i plan on doing that because it seems like the right thing to do but i need advice on how to conduct a conversation like that. i've never called my parents first when they've been mad at me. usually they call me.

any advice?
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Stuck between a rock and a hard place. Jan. 18th, 2005 @ 10:48 pm
I just recently moved into an apartment with three girls who are very close friends with each other. They are friendly and i'd like to stay friendly with them. However, I came back to the apartment one night to discover there was a fifth roommate- a large pit bull belonging to one of the girls. The problem is, pets are not allowed in our apartment complex. I happen to know that if an animal is discovered, all roommates are fined. The impression I get is it is a pretty large fine and I don't want to have to pay it. I'm not sure what to do. On one hand, I want to be friends with the girls, and if I turn them in, they could make my life pretty miserable, but on the other, I don't want to be fined because they broke one of the rules. I'm not sure what to do and my friends don't know either. Any help would be greatly appreciated.
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» 24 year old bisexual teacher...
Hiya...first time poster here. ^_^ I'm Jess, I'm 24 years old, and I'm a high school RE teacher. I guess you'd call me bisexual, but I definitely prefer girls. :)

About a year ago, I started dating a woman I work with. She's called Vicki, and she teaches English. We'd been friends for ages before that. The thing is...I've never really been in a proper, long-term or serious relationship with anyone, and with Vicki, right from the beginning, it was purely physical. After a while she told me that she was falling in love with me, and I freaked out, because I assumed we were just together for the sex. I explained this to her, and...well, things carried on as normal. We were kissing in the storeroom after school one day, and another teacher who works at the school walked in. She's called Sarah and she teaches Science. Vicki knew her and I didn't. Vicki asked her out for a drink with us. Anyway, one thing led to another, and the three of us ended up having sex that week. I didn't particularly mind this whole threesome-thing, but then...we kept getting 'found out', in different ways, and now there are six of us. There's another Sarah, who teaches History, and Sinéad, who also teaches History, and Rachael, who teaches Maths. The six of us have sex regularly, and it's amazing.

But there are two problems.

The first problem is...I'm worried that this thing we have going on is preventing me from settling down with someone. Vicki was actually asked out by a guy she really likes, recently, and she turned him down for us. Even though this isn't a real relationship, it's purely physical. I'm not really looking for a serious relationship with anyone right now, but I'm afraid that what we're doing here will stop me getting one when the time comes. But at the same time, I don't ever want to leave my girls, because we're so comfortable with eachother, and the pleasure it brings is amazing.

The second problem is that Sarah W (the History one!) has been married since May this year. When we first started having sex with her, she was engaged. She's married to this guy called David, who teaches Maths at the school we work at. She hardly ever, ever talks about him to us. We've tried loads of times to talk seriously about it, but she just refuses or changes the subject or says she's got it all under control. But...I don't know. She loves him a lot, and they still have sex and stuff, but then...sometimes she'll complain to us about it. The most information we ever got out of her was one night when we all got really drunk, and she told us that she believed that there are hundreds of people for each person in the world. She said that she didn't believe that David was her soulmate or anything, and that even though she was married to him, she still wanted to go out and experience every different relationship she could. And I think that's why she's with us. It's not that she doesn't see anything wrong with it - it tears her up inside. But she won't leave him, or even just go back to being his girlfriend. She's been with him for six years.

It would be great if you could help. :)
» Relationship question
Sorry this is soo long BUT PLEASE HELP...

My boyfriend smokes pot. A LOT. All of my friends smoke pot. A LOT. I DON'T smoke pot. I don't mind them doing it. I have learned to accept it. In fact it is as normal to me as if they were all drinking. The thing is though, that I do not want to marry and have a child with someone who smokes pot. I do not want my children growing up thinking it is the norm, like I do. It is still ilegal even if it is widley used. I want to marry my boyfriend and he has been telling me for 6 years that I am the women he is going to marry. (I was 16 when we met) I have talked to him about it and he totaly agrees with me, but he won't / can't stop. Just last week I told him that I need to know that he can stop for real before we start making future plans. He told me that as soon as his bag was gone he would stop for a few months to prove it to me. Well his bag has been gone for three days now and I found out that he smoked with my best friend last night. And he lied to me about it. This is common. He lies to me about it often because he thinks I will get angry with him. I don't know what to do anymore. I have broken up with him three times in the past. (Over different stuff) Over the last six years I have never stoped loving him and he has never stoped loving me, but I can't go through this any more. I don't want to break his heart (Or mine) again, but I just don't trust him anymore. I know that noone can really tell me what to do, but can someone please lend me some insight????
» Guy Problem
I've liked this one guy for a few months, and he seems really nice. I've spoken to him a few times, because I want to talk to him. (And out of nervousness, I've said some pretty idiotic things, such as, "This conversation is disturbing" and "I suck at drawing".)

He's always been very nice and polite (and funny), but the last time I approached him (and out of having said idiotic things to him before, I don't approach him often), he looked at me, turned the other way and left. Other times, he's walked over to where I was and talked to the people around me--but never to me.

Sometimes, I think he might be looking at me. And once, I heard a friend of his say, "He really likes her, but don't tell her that." I realize that I might be imagining things, but what do you make of it all? Do you think he likes me? How should I handle the situation?

Thank you very much for reading my explanation and questions! Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
» This is quite long but it has to be to fully understand the situation...
I'd hate to be typical and ask about a relationship, but here it goes...

I know you think that I'm holding you down...Collapse )

Sorry for the length. You can't even imagine how long it would have been if I put everything in there. I was aiming for a Reader's Digest version.
» Help! Thank you note question
Just got this question from a friend. Any advice?

Hey! If you're not sleeping anyway - hahaha - Please feel free to ponder this dilemma;

While my parents were in IN, somehow it came about that one of my Aunts-in-law (my Uncle's wife) said that they had never received a thank you for the wedding present that they sent us for our wedding (in 1996).

Now, because of how my family is, I especially made sure that they each received a thank you, and I have meticulous records of what was received when, and what date I sent their thank you note.

I hunted for my notebook for alomst an hour tonight (because I wanted to see if indeed I had neglected to send them a thank you - that is NOT like me at all to forget or to skip someone....) (and I came accross about TEN den boxes that need unpacking! Yikes!)

Anyway, YES! I did send them a thank you for their wonderful gift (two crystal glasses) on September 1st, 1996. I double checked the address I had listed in my wedding notebook, and it is correct.

Ok, my dilemma; Forget that it's been EIGHT years... how do I handle someone who does not remember - or maybe they did not ever receive - my thank you note?

Thanks for any suggestions! (Maybe run this one by your mom - please feel free to forward to her!)

Sweet dreams,
:- )

PS Chris did spontaneously come up with a wonderfully worded short note that was not mean spirited or nasty in any way, but he can't recall what he said! And said it too quickly fo rme to write down!

It was something like "Dear Aunt Bonnie; I was so disappointed to hear that you did not receive my thank you note that I sent for ...the two wonderful crystal glasses that you had sent us for our wedding. Please ...know that we appreciate your gift.... I can't remember how he ended it. But it was good!
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